1. This doesn't feel real, it doesn't feel like my life.
2. Yesterday and last night he ate so well and slept for 3 hours at a time, now today he has been fussy and wants to snack every hour.
3. He has developed an unknown rash on his chest.
4. I hate breast feeding and my boobs are killing me.
5. I We tried formula for a few feedings and now his stool output has decreased.
6. I feel exhausted and at my whits end all the time...I can't stop crying.
7. I love him so much, but wish my life was what it used to be.
8. He sleeps all the time and when he wakes up it seems like all he wants to do is eat and then he falls right back to sleep. He is only awake for maybe a total of 20 minutes a day.
9. He slept so well in his bassinet for the first few nights and now he fusses if we aren't holding him.
10. I feel like worlds worst mother and have no clue what I am doing!
6 comments:
Sarah,
Congratulations. I am so happy and proud of you. Miles is adorable. I'm glad that you are both safe and sound.
What you are describing sounds like exactly what I went through with my first child. I felt like I had been through the ringer and felt like an awful mom. The good thing is that it is totally normal, but still hard.
The formula causes the stool to back-up, so don't worry. Baby blues can be hard on both of you. If you haven't been put on an ati-depressant I would recommend it. The first time I didn't and it made it so much harder. I was so tense from everything that nursing was a disaster. The next baby i had them put me on them and up them right away and had a better experience.
Hand in there.
Stacey
Sarah-
It will be hard at first because you are giving him everything he needs and it seems like there are no rewards for you. Just give it time, it does get better. If you need a nap or anything I would love to come and hold him for you or anything. About the rash just call his doctor about it, mine is so great about dealing with the first time mother worries. Do not worry I cried about everything too. Take care and call me serousily if you need anything.
You are amazing! Think of what you went through to get him here. You are defanantly not a bad mother.
It truly seems a little unfair that women have to do all that work getting a baby here and then never get the rest they need to make up for all that hard work. Try to sleep whenever he sleeps. And try not to worry too much about the house for the first few weeks. It will get better I promise.
If you are going to continue nursing I would recommend seeing a lactation specialist. I got lucky with Daniel and the pediatrician I went to had one there. It was really helpful. The first month is the hardest with breast feeding it will get better and you won't hurt anymore. Make sure that you use that Lansinoh every time you nurse it will really help. Once your body figures out how much milk Miles actually needs things will get better and there won't be so much pressure and leakage.
His sleep patterns are totally normal. Newborns have to sleep to recover from the delivery and then to grow.
I used a swing at night for both Leah and Daniel. It really helped a lot. I wish I was close enough to just drop mine off. I have a little fold up portable one that I love.
Motherhood is all about trial and error. No one starts out knowing what they are doing. We all learn as we go. Good luck. Your doing great. I love you. Call me anytime. 801 822 6590
Sarah,
He looks like a cutie. Tons of hair too. I'm sure you're doing as good as the rest of us did with our first kid. No one knows what they're doing. As for the breastfeeding, it does kind of suck at first but it should get better and not hurt so bad. Holly slept a ton too when she was first born. But then they start waking up more and needing more attention and you'll wish he'd go back to sleep more. Anyway, good luck. We'll try to come visit sometime but call if you need anything. Sharon
Hang in there Sarah! Those first few weeks are always the hardest. you will get in a routine after a while and things will go back to normal even though I know it seems like they won't. You have gotten some great advice from everyone who has commented so I am sure you will be able to figure everything out. I am home all the time and I may not be an expert but if you need anything, call me. I would love to help in any way that I can!
You are doing great sweetie! I know it is hard at first and you just wish life was simple again. Give it time, pray for patience and assistance and don't forget to go out sometime with Gabe and let Grandma (one or the other) get a fill of Miles. Even if you don't go out maybe have someone take him for a few hours so you can stay sane, I wish so much I would've taken friends and family offers to watch him for a bit while I got rest or just relaxed. So my advise take it. Yes I am offering by the way! I would love to watch him for you sometime ")
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